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Respect Boundaries Around You

I've been watching on the news today about how people leaving the White House last night were basically attacked. Then I began to think about how different groups have harassed other people who happen to be in the public eye while they were out to dinner with their family or something like that. And that's seeing pretty horrific at the time.

But with the way that political incited violence has taken over literally everything now, it makes you wonder what would drive people to be that bold to actually get in someone's face and disrespect their space or boundaries so easily.

So I sit and read some more articles and it begins to come to my attention this is a problem that has been developing for the past 50 years now. I can remember when I grew up with some situations were just not talked about because they didn't need to be talked about. It was not any of my business, it was not of my family's business, it just wasn't anybody else's business. No matter who you were, what the situation was, or any of the above, it just wasn't your business and we respected those boundaries with each other.

Neighbors got along, in the grocery store lines we didn't have to be told the social distance. We just give people their space. If someone else's  kid acted up, we didn't walk up to them and tell them what they're doing wrong as a parent. I can remember my mother many times just acknowledging another mother's frustrations just by looking at her with empathy in the grocery store while their child acting out. It was respect that has been around for generations and generations. That respect for other people's lives, and boundaries appropriate things say or do to the individuals, that we just lack today


So now I start to put two and two together and realize it's how we raise our kids and respect other people's boundaries that were greatly influenced society like it is today. Just look at those young and old people that are getting people's face. Where did they learn that from? Well they learn that from home!

I look back at so called elders from a very, very long time ago, and how they spoke directly to me and my wife about how they thought we should raise our children, and I realize that people have been nosy for a long long time. These people had their own issues that were out of control in their home but I never made it my business to butt in. 

So if you want to start to make an impact on the next few years, start to respect boundaries now, and teach others to do the same as well. I'm not talking about avoiding abuse. I'm talking about going down rabbit trails of conspiracy theories that you really have no business or logic for being there. 

A close family friend and advisor once told us to "stop borrowing trouble". what she meant by that was why worry about things that don't affect you or that you can affect? Why borrow trouble from someone else that has no bearing on your situation in life and worry about it. It just builds horrible anxiety, which leads to more speculation, which leads to more anxiety, which leads to health failure.

Well it starts with home with just minding your own business! It's that simple. It's called RESPECT. And then your children learn it from you start respecting others. Just a simple change of respecting boundaries and not going down other people's rabbit holes. That's where you're just borrowing trouble.

Jesus said it the best when he asked if it was worth it to worry over something when the Father takes care of even the sparrows, the tiniest of the birds. So how much more will he take care of us if we don't worry about things that are behind our control. Or borrow trouble. Or not respect boundaries that are clearly set before us. Jesus said the greatest commandment is to treat others as you would want to be treated. 

Jesus Words On Worry:

Jesus talked about worry and anxiety more than a few times, and he reminds us of how much God loves us, and how He can give us rest.

Matthew 6:25-27  “Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing?  Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?”

Matthew 6:34  “Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.”

Matthew 11:28-30  “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

Luke 12:25  “And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his  span of life?”

John 14:27 “Peace I leave with you;my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid. “

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